The Reaper Cometh
A friend of mine at work (I think she is in her late 50s) went off on leave at Easter. At that time she had some severe abdominal pain and went to hospital. They discovered a 16cm tumour on her kidney and metastisised cancer in her lungs and the bones in her forearm. They gave her a prognosis of 12 months with immunotherapy.
Today an email from her husband to say her cancer has proven to be a lot more aggressive than originally thought and her prognosis is now 1-4 weeks. Her only wish is to be able to leave hospital and spend those last weeks at home.
I feel bad. I want to ring her to tell her what a good friend she has been and that the people around her are better for knowing her. But would you want to hear that in your last weeks? I don't want to write her off but there really is zero hope for her now. I don't want to say goodbye to her while she is still living, it seems like a betrayal.
Dont know....
Today an email from her husband to say her cancer has proven to be a lot more aggressive than originally thought and her prognosis is now 1-4 weeks. Her only wish is to be able to leave hospital and spend those last weeks at home.
I feel bad. I want to ring her to tell her what a good friend she has been and that the people around her are better for knowing her. But would you want to hear that in your last weeks? I don't want to write her off but there really is zero hope for her now. I don't want to say goodbye to her while she is still living, it seems like a betrayal.
Dont know....
posted by Allison Reynolds at 4:31 PM
3 Comments:
DO IT!!!
Have no regrets, say everything you want to. Be strong, and grieve together, let the healing start. It's soooo worth it.
Do it while you can, I didn't - again - and feel all the worse for missing he opportunity
I'm with Joel and Uberzip. What better time to say it than the only time you can?
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