Parachute

My family, like all other families, is unique. We are not the type of family that depends on weekly visits or constant communication. We will get in contact if there is a crisis or at special times of the year. I rang my mum when I was in hospital with MS, my sister rang me when he son was hit by a car, my other sister rang me when she went into labour when her car was being repaired. If it is less of a crisis we may hear about it a bit later or by sms or email. My sister told me a week or so later when she had pinned her daughter to the garage wall with her car (only broke her arm).

Special times of the year are Birthdays and Christmas but I will also send out hellos at Easter, mother and father's days.

We act like everyone's parachute. Not much happens when its not needed, it sits there quietly. But when needed we are there ready to be used.


We have an interesting communication dynamic of who will speak to who (sometimes only if they have to).



The above does work on scales of tolerance. I am child 1 and will speak to anyone if they speak to me. But I don't include child 4 on my birthday wishes as I don't have their contact details and they have deigned to keep them to themselves. So when I see them at Christmas I will say Hi.

But as child 1 you can see I speak to everyone in the family. So it was surprising when on my birthday the only greeting I got was from my sister who stays here 3 times a week. Mind you it was her birthday the day before mine and I had messaged her so she could hardly not contact me.

But I have no idea what I have done to put myself in the "does not speak to" column. Especially after they had RSVP'd (in the negative of course but that was to be expected) to my birthday party invitation that _HaunT_ sent out.

Buggered if I know.